Porn Addiction books worth your Time
Porn Addiction books worth your Time, Money, and Energy
Porn addiction books are written to help educate and inspire readers to expand their knowledge and wisdom on a topic that is very complex. Sexually compulsive men or women are dissimilar and unique.
They exist in the professional world and the working world. They can be homosexual, heterosexual, or somewhere in between. Some authors come from a certain modality of training (think, for example, “trauma model”), which dictates how some of them perceive the impact of sex addiction, while others may have an existential or faith-based approach.
Why bother reading Porn Addiction books anyway?
Like anything else in life, gardening, money management, or selling a home all of these various topics (and more) require some degree of information gathering. After discovering my partner’s sexual compulsivity, I was in shock to be sure. However, once the dust settled, I was desperate to get my hands on the most current available information. I needed to know what other authors knew, and I wanted to handle our situation with care and concern. I wanted my partner to know that we could benefit by educating ourselves before making any serious decisions about the state of our relationship. Some of these books are written by authors who facilitate support groups and host web pages that encourage the sexually compulsive to expand awareness with informed blogs (think of our agency, the "Center for Integrative Change," which is a huge wealth of information).
And Now for the list of Porn Books that are my Favorites:
Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction: The Road to Recovery Goes Through Your Childhood by Eddie Cappurucci
My personal take: If sexual acting out is the band-aid, then Eddie Cappurucci takes you for an inside look at the bullet hole. This author’s ability to write about the subject of sex addiction is very personal (he is a recovering addict), and it comes from many years of running support groups and counseling men and women (he is a therapist).
Out of the Doghouse by Rob Weiss
My personal take: The first step to getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are. Rob Weiss has a straight forward approach to letting his audience know that sexual compulsivity may have been the first solution to problems in the relationship, however, it is not sustainable. Rob is a recovering addict and therapist who has free drop-in groups (for female or male sex addicts) on his web page, http://sexandrelationshiphealing.com
Unwanted, by Jay Stringer
My personal take: You can’t heal people you love, you can’t make choices for them, and you can’t rescue them. This book is like a road map on where to begin that journey. Jay has an incredible story to tell, and it is definitely worth reading. Even if you are not spiritually inclined, his references are not obligatory or offensive. Jay is a therapist and a recovering addict.
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means
My personal take: This book is faith-based and like the book above it is very inclusive and anyone can benefit from the knowledge these authors share. This book focuses on the “trauma model,” which affects the betrayed partner in ways that you may relate to after exploring the topic. Your trauma is still valid even if it didn’t develop into PTSD or even if you never told anyone.
Silently Seduced by Dr. Ken Adams
My personal take: This book deals with the subject of male and/or female enmeshment. Dr. Ken Adams shares the experiences of his clients who have survived the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional home “when parents make their children partners” as the sub title suggests. This can show up later in the enmeshed adult as an inability to be emotionally intimate (not to be confused with physical intimacy). His website is another good resource to check out, http://overcomingenmeshment.com
Naked in Public, by Staci Sprout
My personal take: Staci Sprout knows this territory all too well as she tells her personal struggle with sex addiction and how she is able to help other women in her practice as a therapist. She had an ongoing food addiction that she mentions in the book as well.
If you want to know more about Porn addiction or need help, please reach out to us at the Center for Integrative Change. We’re here to support you.
About The Author
Sandi Timmer is an Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC 7006) and a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist candidate. She is supervised by Jeremy Mast, MS, MDiv, LMFT (CA90961) at the Center for Integrative Change. Sandi works with adult men and women and she is also offering counseling services to couples. She is equipped to counsel clients who are struggling with substance or process addictions. Sandi has extensive training for partners experiencing betrayal trauma. She also has experience in supporting survivors of domestic violence and elementary school age children suffering from various academic problems stemming from challenging family systems.
