Overcoming Betrayal Trauma
Overcoming Betrayal Trauma
So, you find yourself here. After going through the horrible pain of betrayal; you might be feeling lost, hopeless, helpless, angry. Could there be any hope? Yes!
First, let’s understand what betrayal trauma is and what it does to us. Betrayal trauma occurs any time we experience significant emotional pain as a result of someone betraying our trust. This can occur in both romantic and non-romantic relationships. Often, we first experience betrayal trauma with our caregivers. Traditionally, we rely on our caregivers to meet all of our needs as young children. However, when they do not meet our needs whether because of neglect, violence, or abuse, this can be our first experience with betrayal. This can leave us questioning our judgment and self-worth. It can warp our entire perception of our reality and our ability to trust. Importantly, it impacts our ability to trust ourselves and our own judgment.
Despite these challenges, it is possible to overcome betrayal trauma. Simply beginning by acknowledging that this is a difficult thing to go through can provide the first step of validation that can set you on your healing journey. Working through difficult emotions related to this trauma can be processed in both individual and couples therapy. If the betrayal was in a romantic relationship and you choose to stay with your partner, couples therapy can be very helpful for healing relationally. Whatever you choose, landing here is the right first step. Once you are ready you can reach out to a therapist for additional support.
About the Author
Jennifer is an associate marriage and family therapist (AMFT137148) and an associate professional clinical counselor (APCC 13125) supervised by Jeremy Mast, MS, MDiv, LMFT, CSAT (CAMFT90961). Jennifer's experience includes crisis intervention, addiction medicine, outpatient and inpatient treatment for a variety of mental health needs. In her free time, Jennifer enjoys spending time with her family and friends barbecuing, spending time in nature, and traveling and exploring new places.
