Is Couples Therapy Right for Me?
Is Couples Therapy Right for Me?
Chances are that if you landed on this post, the answer is yes. Furthermore, chances are the answer is always yes even if this isn’t an active thought that goes through your mind. You see the reason why couples therapy is so beneficial is because it allows us to heal relationally. This is important because we learn how to exist in this world relationally.
We always exist in relationship to someone else. First and foremost, in relation to our parents, siblings, and other family members. As we grow, we exist in relation to our classmates and friends, and eventually to our romantic partners as well. So now you’re here, way down the line, relating to your partner based on years and years of history and lessons on how to relate to people.
Couples therapy allows us to look at what you learned during your development as a child and adolescent that you now carry into adulthood. It allows you to look at the patterns of relating that you subconsciously or even unconsciously engage in every day. As we explore these dynamics with our romantic partners, they can give us valuable insight into ourselves. We can begin to learn about the role we play in our own problems and work toward healing ourselves and our partners. This not only leads to a more fulfilling romantic relationship, but to a more fulfilling life and relationships with others. When we feel safe and supported, we can focus on improving other elements of ourselves. We can then share this to every aspect of our lives.
So if you’re thinking whether couples therapy is right for you, I’d say take the risk and give it a try. Chances are you’ll learn something not only about your partner, but also about yourself.
About the Author
Jennifer is an associate marriage and family therapist (AMFT137148) and an associate professional clinical counselor (APCC 13125) supervised by Jeremy Mast, MS, MDiv, LMFT, CSAT (CAMFT90961). Jennifer's experience includes crisis intervention, addiction medicine, outpatient and inpatient treatment for a variety of mental health needs. In her free time, Jennifer enjoys spending time with her family and friends barbecuing, spending time in nature, and traveling and exploring new places.
